They Are The 79%
I just heard this on the radio.
When it comes to social status, most women are still looking for a man who is their equal or better, according to a new survey by dating service It’s Just Lunch. The company received more than 1600 responses to its latest online survey, which includes questions about career, education and income.
On the topic of money, 79% of women said it’s a concern and could potentially be a deal breaker if the person they’re dating makes significantly less money than they do. On the other hand, 68% of men say it’s not an issue at all.
I doubt this comes as a surprise to most people. The rest of the piece is fun reading, though.
24% of women but only 5% of men say “It’s concerning, and I should probe further about life goals.” 47% of the women and 26% of the men are mostly positive—but still find the economic difference worrisome, answering that “It’s a bit of a concern, but I’m not going to worry about it and simply continue to have fun.” But 9% of the women and 1 % of the men believe it’s an instant deal breaker, saying “While I’ve had fun, I just don’t think another date is in the cards.
“Continue to have fun” = keep screwing the guy until she gets tired of him. “While I’ve had fun, I just don’t think another date is in the cards.” = Done with this broke-ass thug. Hopefully it means she’s looking for a decent guy to marry, but I wouldn’t take odds on it in Vegas.
Lawyer and blogger Chaton Turner disagrees. She says, “I think that it comes from conditioning as opposed to genetics.” She adds that she has always bucked the trend. “I have dated everybody, at least in terms of type. I have dated the older and richer, the younger and poorer, the tall and the short. Currently, I am engaged to a man who is younger and makes less money.”
Keyword is lawyer. Disagreeing is what lawyers do. Is it conditioning or genetics that compels lawyers to always disagree? Bets on whether the wedding actually happens or not?
LaCota says that, though the topic is fascinating, on a practical level it doesn’t matter whether we’re more influenced by genetics or the environment—or even if we’re influenced at all. “Ultimately, as human beings, with the right chemistry and the right timing,” she says, “the human heart is flexible enough for any two people to fall in love.”
I love the blanket statement with qualifiers. “Anyone could be hit by a bus – if they’re standing in the middle of the street, on a bus route, during the day, the driver doesn’t try to stop, and Venus is aligned with Saturn.” I’m nitpicking l little now.
It’s amusing how a site broadcasts the results of a survey as Shocking New Information, then spends over half of the article trying to explain away said conclusion.
When It Started
A little over a month ago I discovered Chateau Heartiste through a link on a political site, of all places. Reading through it was like finding the thread that strings all the existing pieces together. I had all the elements, pretty much, but this put it all into the right context, the right frame, as it were.
Being the Nice Guy that I am, it wasn’t all pleasant to read about the pump-n-dump lifestyle being so gleefully bandied about, but this was Truth, which compelled me to keep reading. The more I read, the more I felt I could get back in the game, kick the “nice guy” habits and mentality that had been beaten into me all my life, and make my social life better.
This lasted about a week. I discovered more blogs, more sites about Game. I haven’t been that depressed in a long time. Again, I already knew most, but seeing it laid out in such stark – and honest – terms codified all the disparate pieces. What remaining illusions I had, few and fragile though they were, evaporated.
At least Dalrock and Athol Kay, who I found soon after, bring a little light back into things.
I figure I might as well throw out my good and bad stories just for the pure hell of it. Might as well toss in some music snobbery in the process.
Why It’s Here
No real reason, actually, just a place for me to write about whatever random stuff that pops into my head, the occasional look back at stupid things from my life, and music. So I might as well kick off my new hangout hitting all three with a forward looking song from my past.
nightskyradio 