Boys For Pele?
Warren Farrell has a column up on USA Today titled Guns don’t kill people — our sons do.
All but one of the 62 mass killings in the past 30 years was committed by boys or men…
…For boys, the road to successful manhood has crumbled. In many boys’ journey from a fatherless family to an almost all-female staff elementary school such as Sandy Hook, there is no constructive male role model…
…And just while their bodies are telling them that girls are the most important things in the world, these boys are locked into failure. Boys with a “failure to launch” are invisible to most girls. With poor social skills, the boys feel anger at their fear of being rejected and self-loathing at their inability to compete.
All true. The culture has changed from teaching boys how to be men to teaching boys to be quiet, subservient wimps. So how does Farrell propose to fix this? Should fathers reach out to kids in their neighborhoods who don’t have dads and mentor them? Could they be teaching boys how to accomplish things for themselves and discover the self-respect that comes with it? Should adult masculinity once again be seen as an ideal and not something to be avoided at all costs?
With one executive order, President Obama can create a White House Council on Men and Boys to work with the Council on Women and Girls he formed in 2009. Why? No one part of government or the private sector has a handle on the solution.
A coordinated strategy is best developed at the White House level. The mere formation of such a council by the president alerts foundations, companies, families, teachers and therapists that our sons’ “failure to launch” needs to be on their agenda.
Farrell’s answer – fob it off on the gub’ment. Hand it off to the biggest group of hand-wringing manginas in the country. They’ve done so well in telling us what to do about so many other things.
And politically, an effort to go beyond the rote ideological disagreements of the two parties could help build the unity to actually do something instead of fight to a standstill in a closely divided country.
Right. The “boy problem” can be a stepping stone for greater political bedfellow-ry.